Valentines Day. A day that is a wonderful celebration of love for those in a relationship but can be difficult for those who are single or recently separated or divorced.
Valentines Day can make newly single people want to sit alone and wallow in self pity. Here are a few things you can do to take your focus of your single status and make the best out of the day of love.
Celebrate Pal-entines Day
Instead of focusing on romantic love send valentines day cards to your family and friends. Focusing in on the other types of love in your life will remind you that you are not alone. Make a date with your best friend, call your brother or sister or send flowers to your mother. There are many other types of love to celebrate other than romantic love between significant others.
Have an evening of self-care
Valentines Day can also be a great excuse to celebrate the most important person in your life: You. Have a bubble bath, watch your favourite movie or cook yourself your favourite meal. Heck, do all three! Cultivating self-love is the best thing you can do when you are going through a tough time.
Make the day about your kids
If you have children Valentines Day can be a great opportunity to show them how much you care. Make them a special breakfast or pack them a special treat for their lunch. Some schools even allow kids to hand out cards on Valentines Day to their peers so get them ready by helping them write cards for their friends. Plan a fun activity or craft to do with them after school. Focusing on kids can really put the fun back in the holiday even if you are having mixed feelings about it.
Take advantage of half price candy
If you have a sweet tooth take advantage of the sales on February 15 and buy yourself some chocolate or other Valentines Day candy. Just because you don’t have a significant other this holiday to buy them for you doesn’t mean you should deprive yourself. It doesn’t have to be Valentines Day to enjoy something sweet and treats like cinnamon hearts, Hershey kisses and chocolate truffles in heart shaped boxes are usually much cheaper the day after Valentines Day.
Don’t contact your ex
This is more of a don’t than a do. No matter how lonely this holiday has you feeling don’t contact your ex. If the separation is new keeping your distance when you are feeling vulnerable is important for your healing. No matter how much Valentines Day makes you miss having a partner resist the urge to reach out. Remember, there is a reason you are not together and no number of roses or heart-shaped boxes of chocolate can take that away.
If you are going through a divorce this Valentines Day it is important to take care of yourself.
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