All posts by Shulamit Ber Levtov

Are you separating or divorcing and confused by what you’re feeling?   Do you wonder what’s the matter with you?  There’s actually nothing wrong with you. What you’re feeling are the natural reactions to stressful events.  You might feel pissed off, confused, worn out, afraid, sad, depressed, hopeless, guilty, frustrated… the list might be endless. These are all understandable and reasonable […]

Are you feeling bitter about your previous relationship? Would you like to date again but want to know what to avoid? Here are three relationship red flags and the one issue that prevents you from seeing them. They say too much too soon, and think you’re “the one” on the first date or maybe even […]

Are you going through a breakup? Are you confused by your feelings? Or wondering when you’ll stop feeling this way? Here are three secrets about breakups, and two key ways to help you feel better. Secret number one: Breaking up sucks. It just plain sucks. And how you’re feeling is normal. A relationship break-up is […]

Many people react to adverse circumstances like separation or divorce with a flood of strong emotions and a sense of uncertainty. The good news is that, in general, people adapt well over time to life-changing situations and stressful conditions. I know—because I’ve seen it in my clients over and over—that people have the skills and […]

Divorce is hard on everyone and all the more so on kids. Kids experience none of the possible empowerment a divorce can eventually bring, and often feel the brunt of the losses as a result. They are also developmentally less able to cope with stress and change without support. Kids experience many losses in divorce […]

We all have a dialogue that plays in our head. During stressful times this dialogue can either get in the way or help you cope. The problem for most of us is that our inner voice can be highly critical. And this can be exacerbated when you’re going through a particularly emotional situation. A divorce […]